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This blog chronicles an important chapter of my journey and remains available for readers who continue to discover it. My current work is focused on serving as a Private Consigliere, keynote speaker, and author. To learn more about my current work, please visit VictoriaReynolds.com.

I began writing this blog in 2010 as a way of expressing my thoughts about polygamy and growing up in a cult. As I came to my own understanding and awareness of the difference between religion and spirituality, it gave me the ability to look back on my childhood with a broader perspective. This is what I hope to share with you.

I was born in a secluded polygamy-based cult in Montana. Yes, polygamy does exist outside of Utah.

In this secluded community, our unique brand of religion was the stronghold in my life. As a little girl, I was taught to believe that my worth was determined by my servitude to men and their version of God. The sole purpose for my existence was to belong to the right man and give him as many children as my body would allow. The belief that I could not survive without a man to take care of me, control me, and make my choices for me was fed to me from the time I was very small.

As I grew, I was indoctrinated with the belief that I could not obtain heaven unless I gave my husband at least three wives, and only then, if he determined that I was worthy of heaven. I was taught that I was not of value, did not need an education, did not need to drive, and must do everything I was told by the male members of the society, because they were representatives of God. Then I needed to top it off with a smile on my face in the belief that suffering was good for me, that suffering in silence made women beautiful in the eyes of God and men. 

From the time I was very young, I knew I did not want the life God had supposedly predestined for me.

After tolerating years of sexual, physical, emotional, and spiritual abuse at the hands of the men I had been taught were servants of God, I found myself having to choose between suicide and escape. At the age of seventeen, I found the courage, driven by desperation, to leave everything I knew behind me. Rather than living a life that felt like hell, I chose to face the outside world, a world I knew little about and had been taught all of my life to fear. 

I found myself having to choose which version of hell I wanted to suffer through.

In the outside world, I found the love, acceptance, and happiness I had never felt in my childhood community. That was the early 80s, and therapy wasn’t a viable option. Through my own therapy of self-help books and inner guidance, I healed myself from the trauma of my past and created a life that I couldn’t have even imagined as a child. I discovered that hell is nothing more than an illusion in the mind and that heaven is an inside job. With the assistance of my loving inner therapist, I came to understand that any feelings of worthlessness and unworthiness are misconceptions based in the delusions of fear and not the makings of a loving God. Fear is so sneaky and deceptive; it often disguises itself as love. 

Freedom from the constant bombardment of fear became the driving force in my life. 

The 2008 global financial crisis led to my spiritual awakening. In the midst of my life falling apart, it was actually coming together. Spiritual gifts and understanding from my childhood, gifts my religion attempted to scare out of me, were reactivated. This new understanding of Spirit took me on a journey to more deeply understand my unique childhood and to share with the world the beliefs of this hidden subculture. When I came to understand that part of my soul’s purpose is to “take on religion,” it terrified me. 

I wanted to wait to talk about religion until I could do it from a place of peace and understanding, rather than resentment. I hoped to achieve that in this blog. 

My primary purpose when I began this blog was to teach others how to RISE ABOVE FEAR-BASED BELIEFS and have the courage to trust their own path. The focus of my work became spiritual freedom. Freedom stems from understanding that there is no one right way and that all paths lead home to the Divine Love many call God. It is freedom of the heart to learn through joy rather than suffering, and for the heart’s light to be lifted from under the bushel of fear, often propagated by fear-based indoctrination. 

As an author, speaker, and spiritual luminary, I teach others how to see their past with new eyes and create a future that fulfills them in every way. I teach my audiences and students how to compassionately rethink what they’ve always thought and disbelieve what they’ve always believed as they come home to their own inner truth and infinite love. Anything less is a man-made delusion intended to keep us divided and conquered, and separates us from our oneness with divinity. 

I am also a human rights advocate. It is my firm belief that human rights are synonymous with spiritual freedom and our God-given birthright. I believe that all people deserve to be treated with dignity, equality, and respect, and that in the mind of the infinite energy many call God, we are all of equal value. 

If you are open to learning more about my message, programs, books and services, visit http://victoriareynolds.com.