I have been grappling again with the concepts of polygamy and gay marriage. I had put them into the same category as alternative relationships but a friend’s words have made me look deeper into the realities of polygamy.
It is time for all societies to redefine marriage as a whole. It is time stop thinking about marriage as ownership and justification of sex and start thinking about marriage as a partnership. I have been contemplating more on the subject of polygamy and how it relates to the balance of male/female energies. In the discussion of balance polygamy simply doesn’t work. In monogamous relationships, whether heterosexual or homosexual, there is a predominately female partner and a predominantly male partner. That male/female balance in the partnership is what makes it work. When the energies are not balanced the relationship is at war with itself. If there is one man and two women the energy is out of balance. The man in that relationship has to step up his masculine nature to balance the feminine energy. The more women in the relationship the more dominant and controlling the man becomes as testosterone is increased to balance the estrogen. So even in the healthiest of polygamist relationships the male will attempt to dominate because it is his biological nature. Women may argue that polygamy works because of the natural collaborative bond between women, but there will always be an alpha female and a dominant male. We live in a monogamous society where balance can only exist in a one-on-one relationship when both male and female energies cooperate in partnership for the good of the whole.