The Polygamist's Daughter

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Women Supporting Patriarchy?

I remember my mom going to an ERA meeting out of curiosity. It was around 1979.

She came home upset that women would insist on being anything but a righteous and obedient wife and mother. She used the old cliche “a woman’s place is in the home” followed by, “not gallivanting off trying to make money.” She then went on to say said that only angry divorcees and lesbians were feminists and she would have nothing to do with that. I did not know what either one of them were, but I was old enough to know that I didn’t want to be like my mother.

Not much has changed in some parts of our country. I’m stunned, although not really, that there are still women fighting to keep the patriarchy alive and in charge.

There is comfort in letting someone else be in control of their destiny and comfort in wearing hand-me-down beliefs. There is comfort in staying in pre-defined roles and lanes even when the lanes are restrictive. Every thing and everyone in their place maintains order and the male God’s plan.

This isn’t a judgement, just a reflection, and understanding why a segment of our society is clinging to the old ways.

It feels safe and comfortable there. It’s what they’ve always known and change can be frightening. The old ways are comfortable, even when the discomfort is almost unbearable. This comfort is the reason women stay in abusive marriages, sweep painful stories under the rug and hold themselves beneath the power of patriarchy. There is safety in keeping things the same as they’ve always been, even when it isn’t really safe.

Fear creates anger and anger drives division.

Change is inevitable. Understanding that many are facing a real fear of change, helps us understand why some women continue to support the patriarchy, even as they continue to be abused by it. It’s their comfort zone.

It’s up to us, the change makers, to understand why they choose what they choose and try to love them through the fear. We can all get thought this re-balancing of masculine and feminine. They need us to not hold them in resentment simply because they cannot know what they don’t know.

And, it’s up to us, to no longer be afraid to ask for our own needs to be met. This is how we empower ourselves without dis-empowering our men.

Until next time Get Bold, Be Courageous and Speak Your Truth!


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Did You Get The Gift?

While I am no longer blogging on this website, you are welcome to take a look around and read my posts. 

I’ve expanded my insights and words of wisdom beyond simply that of polygamy and now post all of my thoughts on my official website at http://victoriareynolds.com/.

Did you get your free gift yet? Pop on over to my blog, take a look around the website and be sure to pick up your free gift on the home page.

When you register for your free gift, you are also set up to receive updates whenever I blog. It’s just like following my blog here and ensures that you don’t miss out on anything juicy. My intent as always is to inspire you to create a more fulfilling life, get past event the most painful past, follow your own truth and free your spirit from fear-based beliefs.

Get courageous, trust yourself and be free! 

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It’s Official. I’m Moving On Up

To all of my followers, fellow survivors and looky-loos, I want to extend a huge thanks for you readership and support over the last five plus years.

It’s official, my new brand is up and sizzling hot. I’m blogging over HERE now. I can’t wait to give you even juicer information on leaving your fear-based beliefs behind and following your own path so that you can experience true spiritual freedom.

Why would you want spiritual freedom and what it is exactly?  Check it out!

Here’s a guidebook to get you started. It’s totally free and it keeps you connected to me.

Take a look at my hot new website and for the rest of the story click HERE.

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P.S. I have some VERY big news to share in the near future. For now, I am sworn to secrecy. The film industry is funny that way.