The Polygamist's Daughter

Stories, Reflections and Conclusions of Life on the Inside

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It’s Official. I’m Moving On Up

To all of my followers, fellow survivors and looky-loos, I want to extend a huge thanks for you readership and support over the last five plus years.

It’s official, my new brand is up and sizzling hot. I’m blogging over HERE now. I can’t wait to give you even juicer information on leaving your fear-based beliefs behind and following your own path so that you can experience true spiritual freedom.

Why would you want spiritual freedom and what it is exactly?  Check it out!

Here’s a guidebook to get you started. It’s totally free and it keeps you connected to me.

Take a look at my hot new website and for the rest of the story click HERE.

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P.S. I have some VERY big news to share in the near future. For now, I am sworn to secrecy. The film industry is funny that way.


Here’s The Scoop!

It’s time for a change. I have been managing this blog and sharing my insights for over five years and it is time for an upgrade.

Yes, I did re-brand this website last year so that it matched the branding of my official website but it’s still not enough. Several days ago I had a nice long chat with my brand master Chesley Marie. To me she is the Goddess of branding and website design and she did wonders with my official website. “Honey”, she said to me, “You are trying to run two different brands and you need to decide what your focus is. Is it polygamy or is it self-worth?” Of course, for me, they blend together because polygamy is a self-worth, women’s worth, human rights issue.  That being said, it is time for me to choose where to focus my time, creative energy and personal resources.

Running two brands and managing two blogs, while playing all of the roles that come with being a mom and wife, and still making time to be self-honoring has me a little frazzled. Not having clear, concise focus will do that! Nothing is really getting done to its highest and greatest potential and in the way I envision being of service to you.

Running too many directions consumes so much of my time and creativity that I have been unable to complete the books that all of you have been asking for.

Chelsey was right! It is time for me to put my focus, time, creativity, energy and resources into one brand. Over the next month I will be planning my exit strategy away from the gossip of polygamy and focus on what I really love to write and teach. Polygamy is easy because it is so prevalent in the media and I see it from a unique perspective so I won’t be abandoning it completely, but it isn’t my first love.

My real love is inspiring my readers to live a more loving and fulfilling life that is free from the guilt and constraints of religious dogma and the many misconceptions regarding spirituality.  

Taking my message up a level has been an internal dialogue I’ve been having with myself over the past few years as I wonder if the world is ready for my message. It is out there on the leading edge of thought. From what I see in the world around me the answer is yes. As more and more people choose to leave religion behind and go in search of their own truth, I am here to support them in their journey. My purpose is to help others cross the bridge into moving through life in complete confidence of who they were truly born to be. For me, spirituality is a personal experience and the relationship that one has with oneself rather than a one-size-fits-all belief system. There is no one right way and no middle-man necessary.

Yes, I would have been burned alive as a heretic for saying such things only a few centuries ago, and I suspect that I probably was.

In short, over the next few months I will be dismantling this blog and blending it with my official blog at Victoria Reynolds Blog Of course I will continue to be outspoken about women’s rights, human equality, religious abuse, masculine feminine balance, fear-based beliefs, conscious choice, personal relationships, sexuality, self-love, prosperity, and whatever else strikes me in a moment of intuition and inspiration. It will probably always be a little controversial and that’s okay. Controversy is good because it opens the mind to new ideas, concepts, understanding, personal growth and eventually, our collective evolution. As always, everything I write comes from the heart.

I will also be announcing any upcoming books, speaking engagements, film appearances, product releases and other great ways to stay connected and get the inside scoop.

If you want to get a head start, pop on over to my official site at Sign-up to follow my blog and be sure to grab your free gift on the home page while you are there. Stay tuned here for updates while my official site evolves. I have some really juicy stuff on the horizon that you won’t want to miss!

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Finding My Purpose

I am now forty-something and have finally figured out what I want to be when I grow up.  My story does not end with leaving the community of my childhood, although when I left I hoped to write a new story and forget where I came from. I had hoped that by leaving my circumstances that the pain I felt deep inside of me would mysteriously disappear.  I had no idea that I had been a victim of what is now being recognized as religious and spiritual abuse.  All of the pain and trauma of my childhood followed me into my new life as I attempted to navigate the real world, with very little education and very few social skills.

In an attempt to fit in, and to drown the pain I felt, I abused myself through alcohol, drugs, sex and food, not recognizing that it was a form of self-abuse.  I was terrified of telling anyone where I came from or what I had experienced, out of fear that I would be institutionalized.  I floundered in a world I had been told my entire life to fear, in the belief that everyone in the outside world worked for the devil and existed to drag my soul into hell.  After several years of living on the edge of sanity and facing daily thoughts of suicide, I was introduced to self-help books by a roommate. That began the process of what I call self-therapy and took me on a road of self-discovery.  In that journey I learned what it meant to make choices for myself and how choices have consequences. I had never been allowed to make choices as a child, and I had no idea that I played any role in the direction of my life. I was simply a pawn in God’s game.

As I discovered that my choices create my reality, I began to create a life that most people would envy. I married a wonderful man, owned a successful business, traveled the world and eventually had two perfect children. Yet underlying all of the success I was never completely happy and I could not pinpoint why.

Several years ago when the economy crashed I faced what many would recognize as a mid-life crisis, and what I now lovingly call my mid-life rebirth.  I lost my business and my husband lost his work. We were over a million dollars in debt because of business failure and borrowing against our home to keep the business afloat. At one point we had spent all of our savings and maxed out all of our credit cards in the fight for survival.  There was a time when we had only $17 dollars remaining and had no idea where any more money would come from to feed our family.  We found ourselves in the throes of bankruptcy as the only way out of our dilemma and our home was forced into foreclosure. At that same time my children were both diagnosed with learning disorders and my marriage was failing.  Everything I had built for myself was crashing down around me.

In the midst of my chaos I discovered the roots of why I had never been happy and I began to rebuild my life with this new understanding.  I discovered that the fear-based beliefs of my childhood religion were a greater abuse than any physical or sexual abuse I endured. Much like emotional abuse, spiritual abuse affected me in a very deep an profound way that prevented me from finding true happiness.  Only worse, because unlike emotional abuse, which affected my mind and heart, spiritual abuse also caused trauma to my soul and affected inner worth.

In discovering this form of abuse I have now been able to work through it and heal it. This awareness has spawned me to become an advocate for those who have been traumatized by spiritual abuse and to speak out about the abuses that are hidden within religious dogma. Polygamy is one of those abuses that I recognize as a crime against humanity and justified by religion. This understanding has also spurred me to write books about the deception of religion and to become a documentary filmmaker with a focus on spiritual abuse and recovery. In my research I have discovered, that the pain I felt after I left my religion and my attempt to adjust to the real world, is similar to others who have left cult-like religions.  Drug and alcohol addiction, prostitution, teen pregnancy, poverty and suicide are common threads in nearly every story I have come across. While I am not anti-religion, I am not afraid to say it as I see it.  It is time for our religions to evolve.

I now live a life that is filled with pure joy, true fulfillment and inner bliss. This is something I wish for everyone and I believe is truly possible for anyone who seeks it.