The Polygamist's Daughter

Stories, Reflections and Conclusions of Life on the Inside


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Rachel Jeffs Speaks Out

Every time one of us has the courage to speak our truth, the old Patriarchy loses a bit of its control, and we create a more balanced world.

Women all over the world are finding the courage to pull their pain stories out from under wraps and go public with their truth. As they do, we become a forest of voices rather than just the outspoken few. Until we acknowledge the disease of fear and control, we cannot remedy it with love, the only power that will heal the dis-eases on our planet.

Thank you Rachel! As scary as it is to face the demons of your past, you are standing up with your sword of truth, and cutting through the darkness of fear. Light ahead to you in your quest for deeper healing and becoming more of who you were REALLY born to be.

#PolygamyMeToo

Light ahead to each of you as you search for your light in the darkness.

Until next time, Get Bold, Be Courageous and Speak Your Truth!


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Women Supporting Patriarchy?

I remember my mom going to an ERA meeting out of curiosity. It was around 1979.

She came home upset that women would insist on being anything but a righteous and obedient wife and mother. She used the old cliche “a woman’s place is in the home” followed by, “not gallivanting off trying to make money.” She then went on to say said that only angry divorcees and lesbians were feminists and she would have nothing to do with that. I did not know what either one of them were, but I was old enough to know that I didn’t want to be like my mother.

Not much has changed in some parts of our country. I’m stunned, although not really, that there are still women fighting to keep the patriarchy alive and in charge.

There is comfort in letting someone else be in control of their destiny and comfort in wearing hand-me-down beliefs. There is comfort in staying in pre-defined roles and lanes even when the lanes are restrictive. Every thing and everyone in their place maintains order and the male God’s plan.

This isn’t a judgement, just a reflection, and understanding why a segment of our society is clinging to the old ways.

It feels safe and comfortable there. It’s what they’ve always known and change can be frightening. The old ways are comfortable, even when the discomfort is almost unbearable. This comfort is the reason women stay in abusive marriages, sweep painful stories under the rug and hold themselves beneath the power of patriarchy. There is safety in keeping things the same as they’ve always been, even when it isn’t really safe.

Fear creates anger and anger drives division.

Change is inevitable. Understanding that many are facing a real fear of change, helps us understand why some women continue to support the patriarchy, even as they continue to be abused by it. It’s their comfort zone.

It’s up to us, the change makers, to understand why they choose what they choose and try to love them through the fear. We can all get thought this re-balancing of masculine and feminine. They need us to not hold them in resentment simply because they cannot know what they don’t know.

And, it’s up to us, to no longer be afraid to ask for our own needs to be met. This is how we empower ourselves without dis-empowering our men.

Until next time Get Bold, Be Courageous and Speak Your Truth!


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Catholic Comparison

Today’s snippet from Fly, Fly Away: From the Prisons of Polygamy and Patriarchy to the Freedom of Deep Truth.

In my childhood religion we believed that no one could forgive us except for God. We were stuck with our sins until the great and terrible day of judgment in the afterlife when all of humanity would be called before God and their eternal fate determined in one fail swoop. We laughed at the crazy Catholics who actually believed that a man behind a magic curtain like the Wizard of Oz could absolve them of their sins. They were free to sin as much as they wanted and then magically get to start all over again as if nothing had ever happened. The ecclesiastical white out made everything okay. I admit there was a little jealousy that they got to live guilt free, while I had to carry the guilt with me for eternity. All they had to do was believe and confess while I had to work my butt off every day for God’s acceptance of me. We didn’t just have to believe in Jesus as our savior, we had to be perfect like Jesus. Through perfection, we got to be more than saved, we were exalted. Guilt for our sins was the price we paid for making it to the top of heaven.

This was my perceptive as a teenager after being exposed to some Catholic kids in the public school my parents finally broke down and allowed me to attend. This was among the many evils of the world my parents didn’t want me to be exposed to.

Open minds can become changed minds!

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