The Polygamist lifestyle began at a time when women were owned and collected as little more than livestock. Women were used for bartering between men who were building their kingdoms with some kings owning hundreds of women. The marriage contract existed as a business document showing legal trade of stock ownership and for union between families and estates. Women were simply pawns in this process. The marriage contract only recently became associated with so-called morality with the ownership of people being justified by religion for centuries.
Polygamy is a classic case of spiritual abuse. We must stop the allowing atrocities against humanity being justified by religion. During the Civil War we fought to eliminate the twin relics of slavery and polygamy, both of which were justified by religion. Both were recognized as barbaric and inhumane and as a result of the fight toward freedom, both became illegal. America evolved into a new era that gave rise to greater equality for all. Sadly many of us have forgotten that the move away from polygamy was a move toward equality for women.
Over the centuries women have fought and died in numerous attempts to establish respect and equality with the male members of society. It has been a long and painful road as we become closer to achieving the equality that all people deserve. After hundreds of years battling to have our voices heard there is still the underlying belief that women are less valuable than men. That belief still permeates society as a whole. We see this in the way some men treat women and it the way some women treat themselves. We see this in women who are afraid to ask for a raise at work, or afraid to ask for time off. We see it in the girls that intentionally get pregnant hoping that someone will take care of them. We see this in women who are afraid to ask for money or help from their husbands. We still unconsciously believe that women do not deserve equal pay, equal respect and equal treatment.
Many people have bought into the belief that polygamy is necessary. Some are sold on the fundamentalist belief that women cannot go to heaven without a man to take them there, and that women cannot survive this life or the next without servitude to a man. There are some men who still believe that women need to be taken care of because they are incapable of taking care of themselves. And there are women who choose to give up their equality and subject themselves to sharing their husband. Rather than asking their husband and partner for the help they deserve they bring other women into their marriage. They choose to give up their equality and a balanced partnership for a relationship that requires submission and surrender.
Most polygamist relationships set the man up as the leader of the family with all women as subservient. I have seen this firsthand as the daughter of a polygamist and my personal experience with other polygamist households. Women’s opinions hold little value, even collectively, because the husband’s desires always supersede. In essence a polygamist family is not unlike a dictatorship which in itself is fundamentalist. With men at the head of the household polygamy further propagates the belief that women are not of equal worth and value.
The legalization of polygamy defeats any accomplishment that centuries of women have worked so hard to establish. If a woman chooses to enter a self-deprecating relationship, that is her choice, but we cannot legally reward this choice. We cannot legally reward any man’s barbaric insistence that he is superior to the women. We cannot legally award anyone who furthers the belief that women do not deserve a relationship based on balance, mutual respect and equality.
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The only documented cases of polygamy in Canada ( that were actually authorized, sanctioned and permitted by a court of law) occurred in Saskatchewan. In both cases it was already married women who laid legal claim in family law courts to having the need for multiple same time spouses.(the subsequent ones being obvious concubines of a married woman, as the men claimed they did not wish to be the “spouse of a person who had a spouse”, (s,51) Saskatchewan used section 51 of their family act to justify allowing multiple legal spouses at the same time. Google “polygamy relationship overlap” to see yourself.
I’m so proud of you for being bold enough to stand up for what you believe in and grateful we live in a time that you can say what you believe without the real fear of being stoned or hung or publicly flogged. You’re right, many women have died just to be able to communicate the truth and have rights. Keep doing what you’re doing. Savvy Soul Sisters rock!