I do not follow the crowd just because the narrative tells me too. If I did I would still be in the cult I grew up in.
As I child I was taught to not doubt my religion, and that doubt was the devil tempting to lead me astray. What I didn't understand then was the difference between doubt and discernment.
Suffering does't make anyone more beautiful, but it can offer a lesson in self-growth that can lead to a more beautiful way of moving through life.