The Polygamist's Daughter

Stories, Reflections and Conclusions of Life on the Inside


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I’m Up-Leveling Again

It’s been a while since I last connected with you and here’s why. I am up-leveling again in the game of life.  To be more precise, I am resurrecting who I am really here to be.

Resurrection stems from the word serge. It is a resurgence of energy. 

I am experiencing a resurgence of energy that I haven’t felt in a few years. Here is why; I was trying to be someone I am not. At the very least, I was afraid to be more of who I am. Several months ago I started asking myself, “Where is that passion for life I had a few years ago? What happened to jumping out of bed, excited to start a new day? Why do I feel like I am treading water and stuck in a whirlpool?” Then the answer came to me. It started showing up everywhere. The reason I was feeling stuck is because I was slightly off path. The insight came to me that if I would just move back over a couple of feet and get back on track, everything would start flowing again.  I’m not talking about the flow of money. Financially I am better off than I have been since before the last recession, this is more about being in the flow of life and really feeling alive.

After seeing the signs everywhere I am now back on track. This time with an up-leveling in understanding a few more years of wisdom.

Several years ago I came to the understanding that my purpose as a messenger is to teach spiritual freedom. I even went so far as to begin branding myself as the “Spiritual Liberation Catalyst.” I wrote my book, Transcending Fear, in perfect alignment with this message of freedom and even had readers tell me how much my book had changed their lives. Then I decided I needed to figure out how to turn my message into a moneymaker. There is certainly nothing wrong with that.  Money is a necessity and in the hands of love it can change the world. But, what happened for me is that in the process of trying to create a beautiful brand for the mainstream, I forgot about my message to the stream I am here to teach and I lost my own flow.

What I am getting around to saying after all of that, is that I am returning to what I am here to teach. I am here to teach spiritual freedom, which is so much bigger than personal self-worth, and so much more valuable in my perspective.

Tweetable: Self-worth and being in full ownership of your worthiness, is a part of spiritual freedom and can only be achieved after digging through the layers of false beliefs that hold your spirit and self-worth captive.

Over the next few weeks I will be working with my branding and design guru, Chelsey Marie, to create a new brand that reflects who I really am and what I am really here to teach. I am no longer afraid to step out on the leading edge of thought and speak my truth.  Some of you may disagree with my teachings and perspectives and go running for the hills, and some of you will say to yourself, “It’s about time someone has the courage to say these things,” and feel so inspired by my words that you want to share them with your friends.  I am not attached to either one because I am here to teach, pure and simple. How my words are received are up to the receiver.

This time next month you can expect a fabulous new brand and a new free gift to inspire your mind, heart, body and spirit and begin you on the path to spiritual freedom.

Until next time, find courage, trust yourself and be free!

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Ex-Polygamist or Polyamorous Woman Wanted

Yes, you read it right.  I am looking for a woman.

I have been writing this blog for the past five years whenever I feel it tugging at me.  Sometimes I am so inspired that I write more than once a week and sometimes there is a lull of several months.  I write when I feel inspired to write or when something strikes me as so important that I need to write about it. And, I write when I can squeeze it in between other projects and everything that it means to be a wife and mom.

At the beginning of this year I made a commitment to myself to connect with my readers more often and I am now always on the hunt for new content. Part of this commitment is to extend my writing beyond just my own perceptions and include interviews with other people who have experienced polygamy, spiritual abuse and women’s worth issues.

Religiously coerced polygyny I understand. I know far too well the gun that is pointed at women’s heads that forces them to share their husband.  A choice based in duress isn’t much of a choice.  

What I want to understand is why a woman who doesn’t need to share her husband or lover would make that choice. It is a choice based in lack of self-worth?  Does she believe that it’s as good as she is going to find? Did she make the choice out of feeling pressured by someone? Was there a fear-based belief driving the lifestyle choice? What kind of woman would invite another woman into her partnership? What kind of woman would invade someone else’s relationship? How is this any different than swinging? How is it any different than a man having an affair that the wife knows about and willingly allows?

The reason that I am looking for an ex-poly is that I want to understand all sides of the story. I want to know why she chose to engage in the lifestyle and why she chose to exit it. I want someone who is passionate enough about her perspective that she isn’t afraid to spend a few minutes on camera to share her story with you in her own words. Why, because I think all women deserve to know the truth behind the lifestyle choice. And, I think that the world needs to understand the difference between polygamy and polyamory.

The word polygamy has been thrown around lately as the new in buzz word for open relationships. Polygamist relationships and polyamorous relationships are very different things. For starters, one is legal, while the other is not, and for very good reason. 

One last thing. This needs to be a woman who lives in Southern California. Finding someone who lives a secret life has been my biggest hurdle thus far. Ex-polygamists are easy enough to find in Utah but not so much in California. Here in SoCal I suspect the lifestyle and the openness are more prevalent than other parts of the country, the issue is where to begin looking. As far as I know their aren’t any polygamist bars – that’s actually quite the oxymoron considering most polygamists don’t drink. I’m specifically looking for a woman close to home because I would love to spend some real time with her, heart-to-heart, woman-to-woman, talking about women’s worth, love and relationships.

 bonus1I am also offering my Evolve VIP Mentoring Program, a one-one-one coaching program valued at $5,000, to whoever this well-deserving woman is, as compensation for her time and willingness to share on camera.

If this is you or you know someone who is, please send me a personal email to Victoria@VictoriaReynolds.com with the subject line: Ex-Polygamist or Polyamourous Woman Wanted.

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Get Behind Me Satan!

Those of you who know me really well know that I don’t believe in the whole Satan, demons, heaven and hell story.

So you might be wondering, “Why the heck did she come up with this title?” Well, I had an epiphany earlier today about what The Christ meant when he said, “get behind me Satan”. He was talking about fear. Fear makes a big, fat mess of everything and blocks your desired progress.

fear_2 meanings Fear is sneaky, deceptive and disguises itself in many forms. It disguises itself in ways that are almost undetectable. Fear is so deceptive that sometimes it even looks like love. It shows up in your relationships as anger. It shows up in your career as distraction. It shows up in your personal life as complacency. It even makes you want to over-eat, and dare I say it, get drunk. It is the root of stress and frustration. It is the cause of scarcity. It creates feelings of shame and unworthiness. It can even keep you stuck in your own proverbial hell.

Until you learn to recognize fear for what it is and put it behind you, it has the ability to block you from ever experiencing the deliciousness of life that is your birthright.

Understanding fear and the role it plays in your life is a process of digging down through the layers of beliefs that you have picked up in your lifetime. Most of your beliefs are actually other people’s beliefs that were placed upon you as children. They came from your parents, your religion, from school teachers, from friends and siblings, and even came from the media. Some of them you might have created as a child in an attempt to make sense of the chaos around you. Most of your beliefs are based in fear and when you go looking for them, their irrationality will surprise you. The best part, is that once you recognize them, you can put them behind you once and for all.

Were you ever told as a child, “You’re a bad kid. You’re not worthy. You should be ashamed of yourself. You deserved to be punished. You had it coming. You need to feel guilty for what you did. You are just a stupid girl…?”

Unfortunately our subconscious mind buys into other people’s beliefs about our worth and potential. How can you tell if your belief is fear-based? It’s pretty simple. All you need to do is look at the language in the belief and feel how it sits with your core. If there is any kind of judgment attached to it, it’s fear-based. If it feels constraining or limiting in any way, it’s fear. If there is any worry or stress involved with it, you got it, its fear. The opposite of fear is love. Not the mushy, gushy love most people think of. The love I am talking about is intrinsic, it is unconditional and it is free. And, it is far more powerful than fear.

You can put fear behind you with the power of love, simply by overwriting your beliefs with truths.

Truths are always based in love. They will always support you and they will always empower you. You were born in love and learned fear as a child, and as such you can also unlearn it. You can simply choose to no longer believe in your irrational and fear-based beliefs. One of the greatest tools for putting fear behind you is self-forgiveness. Once you recognize a fear-based belief you can forgive yourself for ever buying into it and then overwrite it with an opposite belief that is based in love and empowerment.

If you are really ready to own your true worth and value, it’s time to excavate your old beliefs. Take them out, have a good look at them, and decide whether you are ready to finally put them behind you, or better yet, transcend them.

Did you find this article helpful? If so, pop on over to website at http://victoriareynolds.com/ and pick up your free gift. It will help you take ownership of your true worth in a few simple steps. If you loved this article, please share it with your friends. And, as always, please feel free to comment on this post with your thoughts or requests for future articles.

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