The Polygamist's Daughter

Stories, Reflections and Conclusions of Life on the Inside


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Fear to Freedom

This is a short presentation I recently gave to a group of spiritual seekers. I share a bit of my story about growing up in Fundamentalist Mormonism, how the fear-based beliefs of my childhood affected me as an adult and my journey into finding my own truth.

Each one of us is on a journey of personal evolution in the progression of our own soul and each one of us has specific lessons we pre-determined we wanted to learn in our physical journey. Each one of us has our own unique path and each one of us has our own truth depending on where we are in our own soul’s progression. While there are Universal truths which exist at the core of all humanity, with or without religion, we also have our own individual truths that guide us in our physical journey and the journey of our soul.

In this understanding we can see that there is no “one right way to God” as many of our religions have misguided us to believe. These beliefs were created to keep us under control through the ambiguity of fear. Whether this was done consciously or not is irrelevant, because it is simply a part of our collective evolution. This belief that there is only one path set a course for humanity to be pitted in againstness, rather than oneness. These beliefs have been responsible for pitting cultures against each other and pitting men against women. They have been responsible for the belief that some of us are worth more than others and created the inability for us to recognize and embrace our own truth.

When we all learn to understand that there is more than one path, more than one right way, and more than one truth, and that we are all of equal worth and value, then we will finally have the global peace we all seek. When we override our fear based-beliefs with love, then we will feel the inner peace we all innately desire. When we learn to see every human being through the eyes of unconditional love, then we will have created the heaven on earth that we are ALL ultimately able to create, because it is the very essence of who we are. We need only work down through our limiting beliefs and become one with our own truth, which is always connected to that which many call God.


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The Difference between Spiritual Abuse and Religious Abuse

What is the difference between spiritual abuse and religious abuse?

Many people go through life believing that religion and spirituality are the same.  Religion has claimed ownership of the word “faith” as though it is synonymous with dogma.  In reality, religion and spirituality are two completely different experiences. They can, and do, exist without each other.  In this awareness we can recognize that spiritual abuse and religious abuse are separate experiences.

Religious abuse is attributed to abuse that affects individuals physically.  It is generally recognized as physical or sexual abuse that is justified by religious dogma or exercised by religious opportunists.  Religious abuse is connected to human rights abuses. It affects the physical reality of those who are abused as well as those who are perpetuating the abuse.  The physical and emotional trauma caused by religious abuse requires a lifetime of understanding, healing and acceptance.

Spiritual abuse is much more subtle and more difficult to detect than religious abuse.  Similar to emotional abuse, it leaves no physical scars, yet causes a lifetime of fear, depression, mistrust and lack of fulfillment.  Spiritual abuse is found within the religious and organizational beliefs, rather than physical actions.  Spiritual abuse prevents individuals from achieving a true connection to God and accessing genuine spirituality. Through the fear-based teachings of religion, many are unable to access their own true divine worth and potential.  Unlike religious abuse, which affects the physical experience of those affected by the abuse, spiritual abuse causes trauma to the soul.  It affects our life experience, as well as our perception of our eternal experience.  Unlike religious abuse, most individuals who are perpetuating spiritual abuse are completely unaware of the role that they are playing, because they themselves are affected by the abuse.

We cannot truly heal spiritual abuse and religious abuse with the same beliefs that abused us. Recovering from spiritual abuse requires that we first recognize its existence and where it stems from. Learning how to diagnose the fears that have controlled our lives and how to work through them, can be a long and painful process.  Yet that process is well worth the effort.  It requires that we recognize our fears, understand them, and learn to love them.  The process then becomes a tremendously rewarding and liberating experience.  It brings us to understand our true divine worth, our true connection to ourselves and a deeper knowing of Spirit. It brings an inner peace and joy that truly is heaven on earth.