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The Fall of Man

We are at a time in our collective story when many of us are reinventing, or what I like to call re-creating ourselves. In this re-creation of ourselves we are re-creating our world. I have been invited to share my story at the Women’s Reinvention Summit. I get to share the stage with some amazing messengers who are helping men and women find their true passion and purpose. It’s open to the public so check it out here.


On to the rest of my post.

WARNING! At first appearance this may look like a man bashing post. It is not and you will need to read all the way to the end to understand why. It’s time to put on your big girl panties (or big boy underwear) and grow up.

Okay, now that we are all grown-ups let’s get down to business.

The age of man is over and its time we all get used to it. As the time of Mankind fades away and the time of Humankind emerges, women are coming out of the woodwork and embracing ALL of who we are. We are no longer willing, or able, to be kept behind doors and under wraps.

We are so much more than just the caregivers we have been told for countless centuries is our reason for existence. At the core of every woman is an urge to birth something new within ourselves and for the whole of humanity. It has always been there, for as long as human beings have existed, but in caring for children and homes we have never had the time to care for ourselves, and out of fear we have been unable to follow our gifts and passions. The more children we had the less time we had to think about ourselves and many women resigned to live their lives is woeful sacrifice to everyone else. We were kept barefoot and pregnant on purpose…

In this emergence we are reawakening our gifts, our magic, our original medicine.

Women have always been the holders of spiritual gifts. Our gifts were taken away from us by the masculine uprising that occurred thousands of years ago when humanity lost its balance and we collectively lost our footing. Prior to the rise of man we lived in a sanctuary of peace, in a symbiotic relationship with each other and the earth. That is the true story behind the Garden of Eden. As the masculine rose up he put woman down. He created the God of Man and reduced the Divine Feminine to dirt. There She has waited restlessly until man grew up and we all learned the lesson that both masculine and feminine are necessary for creation and wellbeing.

In the rise of man, feminine gifts were deemed dirty and evil until women were murdered for using their spiritual gifts. Any feminine gifts were seen worthy of keeping alive were claimed by the masculine for their own usage – gifts such as inspiration, healing, writing, painting, designing, music, sensuality…. – all for the glorification of men. If women talked to spirits they were murdered as witches and if men talked to spirits they were dignified as prophets. Women were limited to sharing their talents with other women behind closed doors and forced to give their services for free. Any women who desired to create anything other than babies were shunned and forced to use men’s names if they wanted to openly share their gifts. In these man-made beliefs, God forbid women to share their gifts with the world – and certainly precluded from making money with their gifts.

This belief that women and their gifts are not worthy of money and that money must be feared in the hands of women, has collectedly held women in a position of beneath-ness and less-ness. Until now!

We are coming out from behind closed doors, taking off the layers of wraps end exposing our gifts to the world. We are reclaiming our gifts and using them to heal the damage that has been done to humanity and to our planet in the belief that men rule the world. Mother is coming out and cleaning up the mess the boys have made and freeing Her daughters to work their magic. We are re-creating everything we touch with our gifts as we embrace our ability to connect directly with inspiration – no middle-man necessary. We are making money with love and loving what money has the ability to do in the hands of creative, compassionate, collaborative women.

The true meaning behind “being fruitful and replenishing the earth” has nothing to do with making babies and everything to do with creating trees of life that feed humanity. It mean’s planting our inspired seeds, cultivating our gifts and giving them the freedom to grow and expand, upward and outward as evidence of what is possible. Yes, money does grow on trees, the trees that we plant and nurture with love and as they bloom into magnificent reality. We women are so much more than the caretakers of children; we are the creators of worlds.

Women and money go together like butter and honey.

As this sweet golden deliciousness flows in our our hands we are able to use it for the betterment of ALL of humanity. Without the masculine ego we are able to see clearly the work that needs to be done to heal the earth and create a new reality where true love conquers all. After all, love is the most powerful force in the universe, and it is feminine.

As I said in the beginning that this is not a man-bashing post. It is so important for people to understand that “masculine” and “men” are not synonymous. Masculine is energy while men are men. Every one of us has both masculine and feminine energy, both masculine and feminine qualities, which make up the whole of who we are. The masculine dominance of humanity has also hurt men and prevented men from fully being who they have the ability to be. It fed men with the belief that they needed to control and dominate, and in the need for domination, they have been living lives based in fear rather than love, just as we women have. The emerging feminine allows men to embrace the feminine aspects of who they are and see them as strengths instead of weaknesses. It allows men to hug each other without shame and give money to projects that tug at their heart. It gives men the ability to support woman as women learn how to fly. It also allows women to no longer shun their own feminine aspects as weakness in a world where we have been attempting to be more like men. Embracing the Mother energy found in all of creation provides us with the ability to finally love the WHOLE of who we are. And, the Divine Feminine can finally take Her rightful place in balance and equality with the Divine Masculine, as is should be. I don’t say this to be all woo woo – I’m about as far from religious as you can get without being a complete atheist. How you see God/Goddess is an individual experience and only you know what is true for you.

As we enter this new phase in our evolution we can choose to be part of the solution that helps nurture balance or be part of the resistance.

We can choose to see the beauty of the emerging tree of love, or cling desperately to fundamentalist ways of fear and control. Each of us in our own personal evolution is a part of the greater consciousness. We can try to battle evolution or decide to be part of its magic.

Here is the link again in case you decide to play your part.


Evolution of Man

There are some who argue that polygamy is the natural way of humankind and monogamy is a manipulation, perhaps, but it is part of the process we know of as evolution. We cannot deny evolution as we witness it every day in our own lives. Evolution is more than physical adaptation; it is the constant learning, growing and creating we do individually and collectively. It is the process of surviving our circumstances, learning from our experiences and moving forward into newer versions of ourselves.  It is an ever increasing understanding of our place in the universe, our beliefs about who we are and the development of new technologies. Since our inception we have continually evolved as we learn new ways of being and moving through life. The evolution of humankind has been experienced for many millennia and our own historical records show physical evidence of this progression.

Although we have evolved to a place where most of us recognized the equality of men and women there are still some who cling to the belief that men must collect and conquer women. That it is a man’s biological need to plant his “seed” into as many women as possible. In the dawning age of man when ever increasing numbers were needed to insure survival of the species that physical nature was true. The biological awareness of a lion on the savannas of Africa is that same natural state of being. It is a survival mechanism built into the animals and was once built into us. But we have evolved past the need for human survival in a wild and dangerous world where we are the prey and resources are scarce.

Many of the less evolved societies insist that sex is a masculine need and female obligation. Making love has been twisted into a perversion when in actuality we all need to make love and to be in loving connective relationships. It is a basic human need to be loved and feel a close connection to other human beings. While some argue that men are less likely to cheat on their wives if they are allowed more than one wife that is simply not the case. Most men are perfectly content with one wife. Men rarely stray from marriage because of sex, but because an emotional need is not being met. Evolved men are monogamous by nature and when men’s emotional and physical needs are met by their partners they have no desire to look elsewhere for fulfillment. A superior male recognizes that relationships based in partnership are more rewarding and fulfilling than those based in ownership.

Societies that live and teach polygamy are societies that refuse to evolve, which is evidenced in their other beliefs. In the societies where men are allowed to have more than one woman and where it is acceptable practice to barter and trade women like animals men are reduced to animalistic activities and tendencies. Most polygamist relationships are not based in love but are based in male domination and control. Many polygamist societies use outdated religious beliefs as a means to justify what is recognized by more evolved societies as a violation of human rights.

There are some who argue that polygamy is a more natural state for women. Sadly many women have been manipulated to believe it is the only way they can have truly fulfilling relationships with other women and the only way they can have their needs met. Women are forced to compete with each other for the intimacy of their husband which disempowers them. They live in the belief they are not worthy of real intimacy and they live in the lie that they are helpless. Women are so much stronger and self-sufficient than those societies allow them to be. The relationship women desire with other women exists in friendship, not competition and women deserve real and genuine love that is unhampered by outdated practices and beliefs.

While there are some who refuse to accept the evolutionary process and attempt to remove themselves from it we cannot deny its existence. It is built into us and is in essence the way we are created. We were created to learn and grow and to evolve. I like to believe that men have evolved beyond the beasts of the field. Certainly the men in my life have.